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Women in Patriarchy

The post about women being valued for their looks made me think about how women are generally the enforcers of patriarchy.

For example, as a TBM I was the one who made sure we went to church and did all the 'right' things like family prayer and scripture study. Most of the families I knew had this same dynamic - the woman got the kids ready and made sure everyone behaved during church while often men would put their heads in their hands and fall asleep during the talks. The worst failing an LDS woman is for her kids to stop going to church. (Sorry, Mom...)

In The Caged Virgin, Ayaan Hirsi Ali describes the same dynamic in her Muslim family. Women enforced the traditions that kept them in their place on the bottom rung of society. One theory I have read about is that patriarchy enforces the idea that women have no power, and subconsciously this causes women to repress their feminine side and embrace their masculine side, which means they identify with men and enforce the patriarchal system in ways that give them some power. OK. I didn't say that very well. Do you know what I mean, though?

Why do you think women try so hard to support a system that hurts them? When you were TBM were you the one who made sure everyone got to church on time?


Jan. 26th, 2011 04:09 am (UTC)
Women in Patriarchy
I was the enforcer. I hated it. I felt the husband was a failure for not standing up and I also felt I was doing my job and his. Why did I do it? I thought I would go to hell if we didn't have family home evening, get to church, have family prayer, etc.

I was always a stickler for being on time, also. When I got a divorce and left the morg,it became less important to me. Funny thing, the husband was always late and we argued about it all the time!


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